True, being confrontational might not get you anywhere either, but if the status quo is just accepted, then nothing can change. It's sad that after all these years, no matter how people say times have changed that they are willing to label you as mentally incapabale of arguing a point.
If you think I'm wrong, but that's one thing, but what is the fact that in arguments my entire premise is shot down without proof simply because of differences that have nothing to do with what I'm arguing. Instead of saying why it's wrong, people shut you out say, saying there's no prejudice here, and everything is just fine.
But the sad thing it's not just me. Any viewpoint that comes from someone who is different is wrong. People crack jokes that are demeaning and reinforce the traditional power structure. No matter how well though out your point it, you're just a subhuman creature to the people who disagree. You can't just be an "asshole" or a "bitch," but instead have to be addressed as though you were property.
The sad thing is that I thought I expelled all the intolerant bigots from my Friends lists. But instead, once again, people who I knew for years think it's funny if I were hung from a tree. Not because they disagree with me, but because I happen to be different from them. It was bad enough being called "Nangbaby bin Laden" right after September 11, 2001 and threatened to being punched in the face simply because I didn't believe in the strength or purpose of a tribute (and you can't even find most of those "tributes" any more). The same people who say they don't use slurs and aren't sexist or racist, even after I've seen them do it, then go and pass their venom amongst their friends like winos passing the the last bottle of Thunderbird. Some of my very best friends have admitted behind my back that they think I'm somehow less than a person. What's worst is that I wouldn't have known about unless someone told me, since they thought they were safe because I couldn't see them. So much for out of sight, out of mind.
If you seriously agree any sentiment about shoving forks up someone ass, or think that it's somehow justified to even make a comment like that to anyone, let me know. I'll take you off the list now. I don't care if I know you for one year or ten. I don't want to be blindsided yet again. I'm not going through another round of people passing my e-mails between them as a joke or posting my IM conversations with them on message boards.