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Aug. 30th, 2005 | 03:58 pm

Sometimes I wonder about people drifting apart on-line. One of the things that draws them together in the first place is a common interest. Since after all the first way we get to know each other is through text, people judge each other on what they can produce not their looks. At first I thought this was more fair than in real life. Only much later have I realized it's not just as bad, it's worse.

Still, there's something to be said about to unifying nature of a mutual favorite product. But what happens when you friends don't like the same things. What if they all seem to be going in different directions? To new things that you neither know about nor like? What does that leave you with? Nothing but fading memories of the way it used to be, memories that are replaced by the every growing sense of loneliness. And the worst part about it is that you can't make new friends to replace the old ones who move on, because the new people are into their own obsessions that are as alien to yours as you are to them.

I suppose it's only a matter of time before I fade away completely.

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ミルス。Seven-Colored Puppeteer of B u c u r e s t i.

from: miluda
date: Aug. 30th, 2005 02:25 pm (UTC)
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I like memories, because they happened.

Would you rather they didn't happen at all? I think I'm thankful enough for them.

Meeting and parting comes as a set. Wouldn't it be sad to ignore love if you knew it would come to an end?

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Nangbaby

Memories...

from: nangbaby
date: Aug. 31st, 2005 08:20 pm (UTC)
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I like memories, but a memory in isolation is worse than amnesia, because that memory changes over time far more radically when it is alone then when it is shared. That's not to say it is better to be surrounded with people you hate than to be alone, but the memory you hold by yourself didn't happen. It's really no different than a dream. If it didn't happen at all, it would be all the better.

I ignore love because I know it will never come for me. I don't need to worry about the sweet sorrow of parting when the rendezvous never happens.

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ミルス。Seven-Colored Puppeteer of B u c u r e s t i.

Re: Memories...

from: miluda
date: Aug. 31st, 2005 10:07 pm (UTC)
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If you believe it, it doesn't matter if it really happened or not. If you know it yourself that it did, then it did.

And I'm not talking about the romantic kind of love. I'm talking about anything, caring, friendship.

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Nangbaby

Still...

from: nangbaby
date: Sep. 1st, 2005 01:22 pm (UTC)
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True, but I feel the same way about power, ability, and production is the way most people feel about relationships, love, and companionship. I have no room in my heart for much caring.

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ミルス。Seven-Colored Puppeteer of B u c u r e s t i.

Re: Still...

from: miluda
date: Sep. 1st, 2005 03:15 pm (UTC)
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If you didn't care at all, you wouldn't be talking to me still, nor would you have tried to cheer me up by telling me things would be okay, or any similiar kind of crud.

If you didn't care at all, you wouldn't have posted this kind of post, being sad, having memories, things like that.

If you didn't care at all, you wouldn't have told me that someday I'd never talk to you again, and that someday we'll have this huge argument and I'll never talk to you again. Which hasn't happened yet.

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ミルス。Seven-Colored Puppeteer of B u c u r e s t i.

Re: Still...

from: miluda
date: Sep. 1st, 2005 03:18 pm (UTC)
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I personally don't need to leave a legacy behind. A name, nothing.

You know what I want to leave behind?

I want to leave behind lots and lots of good memories with the people I love. So what if some of them get moody, some of them think too much of themselves, some of them get bad grades, some of them procrastinate, some of them get to work late?

If I am making an impact in their lives just a little, just by being their friend, for caring about them, for screaming a bazillion happy birthdays when it's that special day... when they're down and need hug, I'll be there. If they wanted to talk about how it's so stupid that there's a llama emote, or how MSN is so ugly, I'd still listen.

I think that's my legacy, and it's what I'd like to leave behind. So what if no one else remembered me? Why do I want six trillion whatever people remembering me when NONE of them will truly care about me?

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Lillith

from: damaris
date: Aug. 30th, 2005 08:12 pm (UTC)
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nah, there will always be weird people out there whose obsessions fit nicly with other people's. It's the wonder of the internet.

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Nangbaby

Maybe for you

from: nangbaby
date: Aug. 31st, 2005 08:16 pm (UTC)
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But not for me. I have interests to be sure, but they are both few and isolating. The people on the webcomic forums know more about the comics than I do, so I can't talk to them. The people I used to talk to about other things have grown up and away from those things. And some things like wrestling I don't watch any more so I can't talk about them. So unless I want to do some very generic complaining there's nothing to talk about.

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Spig

from: sin_ominous
date: Aug. 30th, 2005 10:39 pm (UTC)
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Well, not all friends have to have the absolute SAME EXACT interests as you. That wouldn't make each one of them and you unique, right? As for moving on, that's a fact of life. Take DarkShire's good friend Sasha Belmont, for example. Even though Sasha had left ICVD, they still hang out every now and then, as evidenced by their joint meeting with film legend Bruce Campbell ( < 3 ).

There just comes a time where you have to move on with your life. One can't cobweb themselves to the computer screen for the rest of one's life. It's a waste.

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Nangbaby

from: nangbaby
date: Aug. 31st, 2005 08:31 pm (UTC)
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Interests are what attract and bind us. People can like a product and have different opinions on aspects of that product, but they can still talk about it and from there talk about other things. That is where the uniqueness comes in. But without the interests there's nothing to bring people together in the first place, even if those two or three people have compatible personalities.

The problem with moving on is I have nowhere to go. What am I supposed to do when on the computer if I have my AIM window open and no one to talk to?

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evil_kieben

from: evil_kieben
date: Aug. 31st, 2005 11:25 am (UTC)
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Everyone fades away into nothing. That's just the Way It Is.

Unless they become another George Washington or Christopher Columbus. But even then, what's it matter to them if anyone remembers them or not? They're dead.

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Nangbaby

But...

from: nangbaby
date: Aug. 31st, 2005 08:10 pm (UTC)
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Like it or not, they have left a legacy and in a symbolic sense both live on through how they impacted the world. As long as you're remembered --rightly or wrongly-- there is a sense of leaving a presence on this world that will define the lives of people from their births to their deaths.

But since I'll never be one of those people, the best I can do is be remembered by as many people as possible, but if I can't even get the people I know to remember me, what about those I don't know?

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